4 Ways to Feel Sexy This Fall

4 Ways to Feel Sexy This Fall

Fall is approaching and as the season changes, we get thrust out of our care-free, summer routines and into the thick of work and school. Coupled with consistent bad news and disastrous weather, it can be easy to get stuck up in the "PITS," or pleasure interrupting thoughts.  

No worries, though-- I'm here to help! Here are four fabulous ways to get out of your head and start feeling sexier right now:

Fall is approaching and as the season changes, we get thrust out of our care-free, summer routines and into the thick of work and school. Coupled with consistent bad news and disastrous weather, it can be easy to get stuck up in the "PITS," or pleasure interrupting thoughts.  

No worries, though-- I'm here to help! Here are four fabulous ways to get out of your head and start feeling sexier right now,,,

5 Tips for Planning an Epic Bachelorette Party This Summer

This business gets crazy busy with bachelorette parties in the summertime, so we're total pros at planning them!

Here are a few tips for planning your EPIC bachelorette party this summer:

1. Make Your Party Different.

When it comes to bachelorette party themes, we’ve seen it all before. Try something out of the ordinary:

Check out more epic bachelorette party ideas at Brit + Co.

2. Capture the moment! 

  • Hire a freelance photographer using sites like Thumbtack or UpWork,
  • Capture all those photos from your guests with an app like Eversnap,  
  • or set up a fun photo booth complete with costumes & silly props. 


3. Don’t flake on the party favors.

Photo credit: TheSavvyBudgetBride.com

Photo credit: TheSavvyBudgetBride.com

Go all out on the goodie bags! Party favors are what your guests will take home to remind them of this epic celebration. Favors should invoke fond memories of the moment or should feel like a token of appreciation– not a cheap afterthought.  Below are some ideas to help get you thinking to boost your party favor game without breaking the bank:

Check out more party favor ideas from Brit + Co here.

4. The devil really is in the details. 

Especially if you’re tight on time (or funds), you can really get creative with the smaller details like: 

  • Create a themed Spotify playlist and skip hiring a DJ!
  • No time for decorations? Try this adorable 66-piece party-in-a-box (pictured left)
  • Keep it #social with custom hashtags and maybe one of those cute Instagram cut-out frames?


5. Ditch the penis cake, mkay? 

Seriously, penis cakes are so 20 years ago. Keep it classy with some of these nice (and naughty) novelty snacks: 

Want more advice for planning your bachelorette party this Summer? Let us take care of it with one of my specialized classes or workshops! Click the button below to learn more.

Sex Toys Your Grandma Likely Owned

If your grandma is anything like mine, she likely owned a sex toy (or two)-- although she'd probably never admit it! I was shocked to uncover the evolution of pleasure-inducing products in this Inverse article about early sex toys used in the 19th century.  

Photo credit: Inverse.com

Photo credit: Inverse.com

I was slightly to learn that in those times, as the article states,  "'Hysteria' (literally translated as 'womb disease') was an actual medical diagnosis dating back to the times of Galen. The 'symptoms' included anxiety, sleeplessness, irritability, nervousness, erotic fantasies, feelings of heaviness in the lower abdomen, and 'wetness between the legs'."

Basically, there was a widely held scientific belief that women would "go crazy" without proper attention to their vaginas, so women would go to their doctor to have him perform a "fine and gentle [vaginal] massage" until she reached "hysterical paroxysm," or orgasm. Wow. Just. Wow. This procedure was especially recommended for widows, the chaste, and "the religious" as young women and wives were encouraged to seek fulfillment in men and at home. As ridiculous as this logic sounds, it actually paved the way for the sex toy industry. (Thanks patriarchy?)

Our forebears were actually quite clever. 

The one above scares me a bit, but desperate times call for desperate measures, I guess? There were surprisingly more toys for men than I had expected too. Here are a few of my favorites:

Read the full Inverse article here and remember to shop online with us for all your modern sex toy needs. The market is constantly evolving and it's hard to stay up to date on the latest in intimacy-enhancing products. It's even worse visiting a sex toy store and talking to strangers about your intimate needs. That's why I started this business.  In my General Toy Presentation, I show you the latest sex toys on the market and give you the privacy and confidence of shopping in your own home. You get to see the toys in person and get expert advice from someone who gets it. Click the button below to learn more about hosting a private, in-home presentation today!

Bondage for Beginners

Many couples yearn to try something different– spice up the monotony that often rears its head in monogamous relationships. That’s why 50 Shades of Grey is such a popular phenomenon. All the taboo bedroom acts we’d fantasized about were now making their way into mainstream conversation. 

Now that I've finally seen 50 Shades Darker, I’m retooling my 50 Shades of Play: Introduction to Kink! workshop and I’m totally in the mood to talk bondage for beginners:

Successful kink requires thoughtful communication.

Communication is key to a happy sex life. I say this at each and every workshop I teach. It’s KEY! A few things that are most important to discuss prior to jumping right into the action: 

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1. Agree on a “safe word” and/or gesture.
TIP: It should be a word/gesture that isn’t normally said/done during sex that tells your partner to stop, a limit has been reached.

2. Discuss your fantasies and limits.

What is your ultimate fantasy? What are your “deal-breakers”? What types of kink are you into (bondage, role play, dominance/submission, etc.)? How far are you willing to go? You both should know the answers to these questions and more before diving into kinkier pursuits.

3. Invest in some assistance. 

Toys are great for exploring kink. Consider investing in a door swing to bring your bondage exploits to higher heights. Not quite ready yet to get that full blown kinky? Get started with my Under The Bed Restraint System (pictured right) or choose from the other bondage toys below. 

ON SALE NOW: Bijoux Gold Diamond Vibe

Bask in the glow of sensational orgasms with the Bijoux Gold Diamond Vibrator. Shaped just like a diamond, this gleaming luxury vibrator features unique stimulating contours and houses a 10 function rechargeable motor for diverse play-sessions.

Take full advantage of this palm-sized sex toy and unleash its full pleasure-inducing potential. The pointed tip is perfect for precise clitoral stimulation, while elongated sides make light work of caressing the clitoris and labia at the same time. Alternatively, flip it upside down and use the broad, flat surface to simultaneously massage the labia and vulva.



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Want to try more? Why not experiment with these techniques on other areas too, such as the nipples, perineum and anus? Or, for a more gentle warm up, use the rechargeable toy to enhance sensual shoulder and back massages with your partner. We recommend applying a generous layer of your favorite sex lube, like ToyLove (left), to the surface of this toy to maximize pleasure.


3 Ways to Clear Your Chakras and Recharge Your Sex Life!


Chakras are energy centers through which prana, or life-force energy, flows. The second chakra, or the sacral chakra, is located in the lower abdomen, two inches behind the navel.  It governs our sense of pleasure and sexual energy.

Blockages in the chakras can lead to illness and disease. If your sacral chakra is blocked or imbalanced, you may experience a decreased appetite, low libido or sexual drive, and increased feelings of jealousy and possessiveness. 

My bestie Rossy The Reiki is the owner and visionary over at Balance Thy Chakra and she's hosting a workshop on Sunday, April 30 all about the sacral chakra if you're interested in learning more. 

In the meantime, here are some tips to tap into your sacral energy and start having better sex:

1. Sacral Chakra Exercises

Credit: Jeff Woods/ChangeYourEnergy.com (YouTube)

The second chakra, our sacral chakra governs our sexual energy. Located in the lower abdomen, behind the navel– this energy center, when blocked, can manifest in decreased appetite for food or sex and feelings of jealousy. Try these exercises to open your sacral chakra and get your sensual energy flowing.

2. Chakra-Clearing Affirmations

Dr. Kelly Neff of MindBodyGreen suggests using these seven chakra affirmations to “open the flow of energy throughout the body and enhance sexual experiences” by building trust, acceptance, appreciation, unconditional love, positive expression, harmony and connection.

3. Try Practicing Energy Orgasms

What is an energy orgasm? Sexologist Annie Sprinkle, Ph.D explains how to have energy orgasms in this step-by-step guide. Sprinkle’s technique is based on the Fire Breath Orgasm, taught by Harley Swiftdeer of the Deer Tribe. According to Swiftdeer, the Cherokees would perform the fire breath orgasm in their ceremonies and it was an important part of sex education and healing.

Is this real?? Check out this energy orgasm experiment from our friend Adina at MyTinySecrets.com (WARNING: NSFW! Turn your speakers down before viewing!)

That's all for now! Stay tuned and check out Rossy's other chakra-clearing events at: www.balancethychakra.com/events.




3 Gifts That Will Spice Up Your Sex Life

Looking for ways to tell your lover that you'd like to try something new? Try these three fun gift ideas to have better sex more often:

A Month of Sex: Activity Calendar

Invigorate your sex life every day of the month with the help of Little Genie's Behind Closed Doors A Month of Sex 30 Day Activity Calendar, a creative docket of racy, sexual activities to be acted out by you and your lover over the course of 30 days. Opening like a book, this dual page calendar features removable "doors" to signify each day, revealing a sultry activity card underneath its erotic picture when unlocked. Begin and finish your month of sex whenever you please, this calendar can be started any day you like and completed at your own pace. 

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Spicy Dice

A fun, sexy game for adventurous coupes, the Spicy Dice pack contains 3 die, each with an action, body part, and location. When all three are rolled, you'll have a mission to enjoy completing.

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Pyxis Finger Massager

This innovative finger massager is made to explore. Finger vibrator features: 5 intense patterns. Innovative, ergonomic shape. Soft and luxurious, body safe silicone. Form fitting ambidextrous design. USB rechargeable with magnetic contacts: charging cord included. Complete charge in 2 hours Battery lasts approximately 1.5 hours to 2 hours when fully charged. Waterproof vibrations for play outside the bedroom. Easy to operate. Hold for 3 seconds to turn off anytime. Stainless alloy, easy push button. Soft luxury lint free storage bag included. Discreet operation. Whisper quiet. 1.5 inches long by 1.5 inches wide by 1.25 inches deep / 3.75cm x 3.75cm x 3.25cm. One Year Manufacturer's Warranty. 

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The Ultimate Guide to Steak & A BJ Day: March 14

Yes, this is for real. Steak and a BJ Day, for those who may not know, occurs every year on March 14. While Valentine's Day is a day for couples to celebrate their love with gifts of affection; more often than not, the holiday is much more beneficial and enjoyable for women than for men. 

With that in mind, March 14 (exactly one month after Valentine's Day) officially marks "Steak and a BJ Day" and the concept for this holiday is simple: If your man makes you feel special on Valentine's Day, then he should feel special on this day. And what better way to make a man feel special than to cook him a steak and give him a blowjob?

The best thing about this holiday, is that it is totally dependent upon how much thought your man put into Valentine's Day the month prior. Questioning the legitimacy of this holiday? There's an official website and Facebook page with more than 16,000 likes-- complete with gift ideas and greeting cards, if that's your thing. In fact last year, these fine folks used the holiday to raise more than $4,000 for breast cancer!

As creator of the #BlowHisMind Fellatio 101 workshop, of course I had to weigh in on the holiday. Naturally, I asked my Chef Hubby, the culinary genius behind Seriously Good Eats, for his take on how to prepare the best steak. Realizing that home cooks need easy-to-follow instructions, he pointed me straight to the Tasty videos below. 

So here's your go-to guide for a mind-blowing March 14:



1. Watch this video to see how to cook an amazing steak that will rock his socks off!

2. Ready to kick it up a notch? Try this romantic steak dinner for two.

3. Lastly, check out these mind-blowing tips from Buzzfeed and click the button below to learn more about how you can privately host DC's hottest #BlowHisMind Fellatio 101 Workshop for you and 4 of your friends! 

Keep it social: Post your #steakandabj culinary creations on March 14 using hashtags #steakandabjday and #blowhismind and we'll repost them!