Tips for Great Period Sex
I know there is great debate on whether or not it’s “normal” or even safe to have any kind of sex (oral, penetrative, otherwise) while a person is menstruating. The fact is: period sex is completely normal.
For people with vaginas, menstruation is a very normal, very healthy thing. And so is sex. Our menstrual cycles don’t make us devoid of sexual urges, in fact we can often be even more sexually aroused during this wonderfully bloody time of the month. Again, this too is perfectly normal.
Before You Dive Into The Crimson Tide:
Contrary to some common beliefs, as long as you and your partner are STI-free, period sex is 100% hygienic and completely safe/sanitary. Remember that period sex does carry higher risk for blood-borne STI transmission (like HPV, HIV and syphillis) and if you’re having penetrative sex that could potentially be reproductive, you should still use some method of birth control to avoid unwanted pregnancy in cases of early ovulation.
With this post, I hope to demystify myths like this about period sex and help everyone on their journeys to sexual pleasure all month long — even when Aunt Flo comes to visit:
1. Put down a dark towel or blanket.
Invest in a dark-colored period towel or blanket. Spring for ones that are soft (for comfort) and thick (extra absorbency will better protect your sheets) in dark colors like red, black, blue (for obvious aesthetic reasons). Put the towel down before you get ready for action to ensure easy clean up— especially after penetrative sex. Did you know that menstrual blood is great for lubricating the vagina which can result in more pleasureful penetration for both parties?
2. For less bloody oral sex, try using menstrual cup or tampon.
Blood has a thicker, more metallic taste and texture than our bodily fluids usually produce. Wearing a penetrative solution like a menstrual cup or tampon reduces the amount of blood that reaches the vaginal opening— making it easier to focus oral stimulation on the clitoris.
3. Try using a menstrual disc for a less bloody penetrative experiences.
If you’ve ever used a menstrual cup, then menstrual discs are an easy choice. If the sight of blood makes you (or your partner) too uncomfortable for sex, I definitely suggest giving this option a try. There are several menstrual discs on the market, but I personally recommend Flex Disc disposable menstrual discs specifically for intercourse because they’re super comfortable and less messy for both partners during penetrative sex. (PS: This is not a sponsored post.) “It works differently than a tampon or a menstrual cup because it does not plug your vaginal canal,” says CEO Lauren Schulte.
4. Explore outercourse.
If penetrative sex on your period, just doesn’t float your boat but you still have urges to get it on, try non-penetrative sex or “outercourse” as coined by Dr. Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First. Kissing, sensual body massage, vulva massage, and oral stimulation of other erogenous zones like the neck, nipples, inner thighs or feet can provide immense pleasure when penetration is off the table.
That’s all I’ve got for now— stay tuned for more sex tips and tricks and to keep following my journey as a “sex-preneur” follow me on all things social at @RebaTheDiva! For tips on alternative ways to manage your period check out our most recent blog at www.sexpertconsultants.com/blog!
